“For oral, I need two fingers inside the vagina, pressing upward and holding still, and his tongue on the clit, starting right below it and licking up and down so that it’s directly on the clit and not the hood. For digital, I need two fingers moving the hood around in circles in a counterclockwise motion so that the hood stimulates the clit. During intercourse, I do this finger motion myself or hold a vibrator still over the clitoral hood. My advice to people who want more orgasms with a partner: Be specific. Your partner’s education has probably been limited to vague-ass articles with advice like ‘create a romantic mood!’ and ‘experiment!’ Tell them exactly what motion and location feels best. Show them what you do on your own.” ― , sex and relationships writer20 Years OfFreeJournalismYour Support Fuels Our MissionYour Support Fuels Our MissionFor two decades, HuffPost has been fearless, unflinching, and relentless in pursuit of the truth. Support our mission to keep us around for the next 20 — we can't do this without you.We remain committed to providing you with the unflinching, fact-based journalism everyone deserves.Thank you again for your support along the way. We’re truly grateful for readers like you! Your initial support helped get us here and bolstered our newsroom, which kept us strong during uncertain times. Now as we continue, we need your help more than ever. .We remain committed to providing you with the unflinching, fact-based journalism everyone deserves.Thank you again for your support along the way. We’re truly grateful for readers like you! Your initial support helped get us here and bolstered our newsroom, which kept us strong during uncertain times. Now as we continue, we need your help more than ever. .Support HuffPostAlready contributed? Log in to hide these messages.“The easiest way to orgasm for me is to recognize even the slightest sensation of pleasure as a tiny orgasm. I believe that orgasmicness is our nature. It’s not some place we need to arrive, quite the opposite ― we need to remove the blocks that prevent us from being in this natural state. Deep breath paired with a long sound on the exhalation, deep relaxation into sensation and pleasure, plus allowing the body to move in a soft natural way are all gateways to orgasm.” ― , a tantra teacherAdvertisement, The elusive female orgasm probably wouldn’t be so elusive if it was equally valued and if men were interested in learning the exact ways women bring themselves to climax., .